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Monday, September 25 2017
Join us Wednesday 9/27, 12-1pm ET!
Master Coach Marty Raphael will be coaching a client she's never met. She is a leader at a wealth management firm. She's looking for direction on how to balance her life, time management ideas- how to grow and to stay more focused.
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Monday, August 14 2017
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Questioning Strategy
by Judy Irving MCC
(MMC guest master coach and blogger)
What’s the strategy for your life’s work? The word ‘work’ can be replaced with any such as career, life, marriage, the current project, or perhaps retirement? Have you defined your strategy? Is it working? How do you know? Do you actually have a plan in place or do you live life in default mode?
Many people will say my strategy is to earn enough money to pay my bills, educate my kids and someday retire. What if money is a side effect of doing valued work? What if educating your kids is a side effect of being a loving parent? What if retirement is a side effect of self-discipline? What if a life well lived means having a dependable strategy? What if the foundation for all of these is finding meaning in life?
As an leadership coach, I watch smart, educated, and skilled people with the potential to be great leaders and yet they are so focused on ‘doing’, staying busy, checking things off their list that they don’t stop and look at the bigger picture. Exactly where are all these actions leading me? Is being busy or getting things done enough?
I think the bigger question is what is the desired outcome and what is the real value of that outcome? What difference will it make to me, my life, my company, my family, my team, etc? How do I get my team or my family on board with this desired outcome? Is it clear enough and important enough that I can engage them in my vision? Can they get excited about it too? What choices and actions will lead to that outcome? What do we need – people, skills, training, resources? How much time will it take? How much time do we have?
If you are not taking the time to think through these questions – I call this executive think time and you should take this time daily – then you will continue to be Dolly or Darin Doer. Staying busy doing everything on your checklist, going to bed each night with a sense of accomplishment but rarely a sense of fulfillment. I suggest you begin by observing what gives you a sense of fulfillment. What does it feel like, where did it come from and how can you find more of it? Yes, coaches ask a lot of questions – try asking yourself a few.
@ Judy Irving 2017
Judy Irving is an Executive and Leadership Coach and owner of Moving On Coaching and Consulting, located in Las Vegas, NV. As a credential master coach by the International Coach Federation, she is among the top 2% of coaches internationally.
Visit her at http://www.movingon.net
Read more of her "transformativethoughts's" blog posts at www.judyirving.com
Tuesday, July 25 2017
“What got you here (PCC), will not get you there (MCC)” a coach was told by her MCC mentor coach, when feeling stuck in moving her skills to the MCC level.
So what will get her there? We’ll find out!
First by hearing those master level skills demonstrated as she is coached by Annette Hurley MCC.
And then we will be diving deep into the debriefing and extended Q&A.
No matter what our skill level, this will be incredibly fascinating, provide unique learning and is an opportunity to open up our world and really shift our coaching.
Plus get the MP3, ICF & BCC CE’s and MMC Nugget! CE's will be provided for the 1st hour.
Join us for this exciting adventure Monday July 31, 2017 12-1:30pm ET.
Thursday, May 04 2017
By Drift or Design?
by Terrie Lupberger MCC
(MMC guest master coach and blogger)
One of my clients recently told me that after 27 years of marriage her husband has just asked for a divorce. Apparently he had been miserable for the last 15 of those 27 years. ‘No’, she didn’t see any signs of his unhappiness but then again, she admitted that she’s been pretty caught up in her own work for so long that maybe she didn’t notice the signs. Another client, a senior manager, has been so overwhelmed with work for so long that he’s gotten use to only spending about 10 hours a month with his family. It’s ‘not ideal’ he says but there isn’t much he can do about either.
I can’t tell you how many people I’ve worked with over the years that have similar stories. Their professions and life circumstances vary widely but they are all surprised and disillusioned to find themselves in circumstances, relationships, and jobs that have little connection any more with what’s really important to them. Somewhere along the course of their life they got caught in what I call the drift.
Whether leading others or leading your own life it seems to me there are two primary paths you can take. You either spend most of your time reacting to circumstances, acting mostly out of habit and at the effect of what others want of you (the drift) OR you are conscious and purposeful in designing how you spend your time, and with whom, as a reflection of what matters most to you.
OK, maybe it’s not that simple or black and white, but it’s a powerful way to orient yourself in both your professional and personal life.
In the drift, your life is the result of just the way you’ve come to do things. It’s a result of a million small and not-so-small decisions that you made out of habit or fear or justifications and reasons to accommodate to the circumstances.
In the design, your life is about consciously choosing to take actions consistent with your values, your inner knowing, and your most important cares.
In the drift, you’re blind to the possibilities that things could be done differently. You take your habitual choices and your ways of responding to things as the norm.
In the design you’re aware that your thinking and your actions are either generating what you want or they aren’t.
In the drift, you are more likely to blame your circumstances or others for why you don’t have what you want.
In the design you know you have more choice than you think you do. You know you have options to design it differently and you always have the option to relate to your circumstances differently, even if you can’t change them.
In the drift you have a whole lot of reasons why you have to keep doing what you’re doing.
In the design you muster your courage and take risks to get results, and, even if you fail, you know you were acting out of alignment and integrity with what matters most.
The drift shows up in subtle and not-so-subtle ways. Take, for example, the senior manager who is so overwhelmed with work that he doesn’t have time to return emails in a timely manner. Ironically, the lack of communication with his team is the reason there are so many emails in the first place but he can’t see that – he doesn’t have the time. Or consider the project team that is so busy reacting to changing user requirements that they don’t step back to see if the overall project plan and direction still makes sense to their customers.
I worked with the CEO of a medical research lab who had been putting up with a verbally abusive boss for 4 years. Getting her son through college was the reason that she justified not taking different actions. There’s the HR Director who traveled internationally every month and was considered a superstar at work, year after year exceeding all the milestones, but was starting to wonder if there was more to life than an 80 hour work week with little energy or time left to tend to her own wants and needs outside of work.
You, yourself, may have been saying for some time that you’re going to finish writing that book, or start a new business, or move to a new town, or get back to exercising – but everything else takes precedent. You’ve been unhappy at your current work for a while but everyone is telling you how good you have it made so you stay. You’ve been so busy tending to kids, or to that little voice in your head insisting you work hard so you aren’t found out as an imposter, or to the demands of your boss, spouse or parents, that you’ve ignored your own health, well-being and aspirations.
Let’s face it, we all have been taken by the drift at different times in our lives. I even think the drift can be a healthy space to hang out in for a while – taking the time to more deeply listen to what wants to emerge next in your personal or professional life. It’s just that too many people don’t even know they’re in the drift, don’t know or believe there’s an alternative.
The problem with that is – and that old saying sums it up perfectly – ‘if you always do what you’ve always done you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten.’ You see, the future exists only in the present. Let me say that again in case you missed it. The future exists only in the present. If there isn’t attention on it now then you will be a product of the drift of action, not the author of them. You’ll keep getting more of the same.
So, maybe it’s worth your time to consider this important but undervalued exploration. Ask yourself: Are you living and leading, right now, by drift or by design? Are you conscious and intentional and designing the actions needed to take care of what you most care about? Or, are you too busy reacting to circumstances, events, and what other people want for and from you?
It’s not too late if you answered yes to the latter. It will take awareness, courage and some friendly support. But, in the end, who do you want to say authored your life?
copyright @2017 Terrie Lupberger all rights reserved
Terrie is an executive coach and talent developer for leaders, managers and teams worldwide, Terrie’s international experience, executive coaching skills and tool set, plus 20 years of experience as a CEO and Senior Executive give her a unique vantage point when working with her clients.
Terrie is a pioneer in the field of coaching. She helped develop the core coaching competencies being used today as the standard of coaching professionalism worldwide. She is a former Board Member of the International Coach Federation, mentors coaches pursuing mastery and teaches executive coaching at the University of Miami as well as in Europe and Asia. She is a contributing author to several books on coaching including: A Coach’s Guide to Emotional Intelligence and The Handbook of Knowledge-Based Coaching. She works with coaches pursuing mastery in the profession.
www.terrielupberger.com
Saturday, March 11 2017
I created Inside the World of Master Coaching, a tele-class series giving coaches a chance to observe and learn from mastery in action by listening to the masters coaching real world sessions then answering questions.
I did so because I firmly believe that in order to become masterful, to work towards mastery it is imperative that we study with and watch the masterful as they do what they do best!
So don't waste time, energy and money instead go straight to the top, to the masters!
Where you will:
- get the purest and greatest learning
- make greater leaps and bounds at a quicker pace
- receive transformational insights and inspiration
- avoid learning bad habits and being taught incomplete or misinformation.
This is why Moore Master Coaching is also proud to be sponsoring this year’s most important event: Essence of Mastery Summit - created and hosted by two masters Fran Fisher MCC and Annie Gelfand MCC.
They, along with 6 other masterful coaches, will each be sharing their mastery on a vital coaching topic near and dear to their heart. And CEUs are available!
By the way, all of the MCCs in the summit have been guest master coaches on the MMC teleclass series! You can read more about their calls on the past calls page.
Be sure to check out the Essence of Mastery Summit, you don’t want to miss it! Early bird rate expires March 24th!
And if you're ready to hear what masterful coaching sounds like, get a free sneak peak of my series here.
Saturday, February 11 2017
Follow Your Inner Shaman
by Margie Gordillo MCC
(MMC guest master coach and blogger)
To be taken seriously in his or her tribe as a true healer, the ancient shaman had to return from death or a near-death experience, or from the brink of insanity. The shaman knows the only way to deeper truth leading to profound healing is to walk through the dark side of the inner self. And it’s that darker side of us, our shadow, that keeps hidden the full truth of who we are – our authentic selves. Hidden from our deepest truth, we are blocked from our greatest authentic resourcefulness.
Fortunately, leaders today don’t need anything so dramatic as near-death experiences to be taken seriously, or to find their truest expression.
But neither is it easy.
As a descendent of Nicaragua’s Nicoya tribe, a Shamanic mountain tribe revered for their intuitive and healing gifts, intuition has always come easy to me. Authenticity has not.
Our shadows create unconscious blocks to our strongest expressions of authentic leadership and honest communication, impacting our every choice. Over time, we build up defenses, patterns, and habits to help us cope, often not recognizing how much energy goes to hiding shame, blame and inadequacy that the shadow clings to. Those coping mechanisms lurk beneath the surface of our consciousness, cause us to give up our power, and keep us from boldly and intuitively living our lives with confidence, compassion, resourcefulness and strength.
We’re gifted at different times in our lives to take that dark walk.
When we’re ready, or when it’s thrust upon us, there are tools such as the Enneagram that can help. I’ll explore some of these in future posts.
For now, recognize we all have blocks to our greater potential. It’s the chatter in our heads that says we’re wrong, we don’t have what it takes (not really), everything’s my fault… Some of you may be saying to yourself, “I’ve already worked through that,” and you’re right. And yet, we’re always given another chance to take a deeper look, to peel off the proverbial layers.
To fully, completely live an authentic life, we must dive into our deeper selves with the fearlessness of a shaman, the courage of a soldier, and the heart of a lion. When we do this, then, and only then, will we live with passion and authenticity.
copyright @2017 all rights reserved
About Margie: Feeling unsatisfied with her executive corporate success, Margie left her job behind to embark on a Shamanic journey, 'coincidentally' on September 11, 2001 -- the same day the U.S. experienced a great destruction to some of its core structure.
Allowing her own construct of reality to deconstruct, she discovered the essence of her authentic self, embracing her Nicoya Shaman roots from her Nicaraguan heritage. Learning inner stillness and connecting to nature as simple, yet divine, Margie discovered the deep powers of intuition that her rational mind up to that point had resisted.
Eventually, she was guided to intuitive life coaching as an answer to her question: Where and how do I make the greatest impact for positive change using my natural gifts?
Margie is an International Coach Federation Master Certified Coach with more than a decade of professional coaching experience. Also a Certified Mentor Coach, Margie has trained and mentored scores of individuals and members of large organizations seeking ICF certification .
She was first certified as a co-active coach from the Coaches Training Institute in San Francisco, followed by advanced training at inviteChange in Seattle, both highly acclaimed organizations in the coaching industry.
Margie holds a Master of Arts degree in Transpersonal Psychology.
www.getrealcoach.net
www.getrealcoach.net/blog
Friday, January 13 2017
By Donna Zajonc MCC and David Emerald
(Donna was a guest MCC May 2015)
Goal setting is a valuable practice that helps you stay on track and get things done. Goals are essential for completing tasks, whether it is developing a new business skill, learning a new hobby or cleaning the garage.
While setting goals can motivate you, they can also produce a feeling that what you currently have isn't enough. A sense of unease can come over you if your goal-oriented life discounts all that is good in the present moment. In short, while goals can move you forward, you can also feel victimized by constant "what's next?" thinking.
Questions may start haunting you: Am I going to fulfill my goal? Will I be successful or not? Will I be happy once I reach the goal? Should I set another goal to keep the pressure on? Am I a failure if the goal is not reached?
A winning or losing mindset can operate in the back of your mind, which fuels the internal Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) ™. If you don't reach your goal, the Victim mindset says, "Why try anyway. I'll never be a success."
The controlling Persecutor in you may take over and interfere with other important aspects of your life. You might accomplish your goals but the rest of your life might fall apart. In short, over reliance on goal-setting can become a winner-take-all plot that dominates your life.
Living your intentions, on the other hand, is much different. Being intentional allows you to focus on how you want to be in the moment, independent of whether you are winning or losing. Creators balance their desired outcome with intentions first, based upon their values and what matters most to them. Goal-setting then naturally follows. For a Creator, the source of satisfaction and happiness is both the experience in the moment, as well as the desired goal or outcome.
A metaphor may help illustrate the distinction between intentions and goals.
We live in the US near a national forest which has wonderful day hikes that allow spectacular views. Our goal may be to hike to the top of a small mountain and wish to see the extraordinary view from the summit. It's a worthy goal that gets us excited and motivates us to schedule a hike.
Before we begin the hike, we set our intention to be present to the sights and smells along the trail, noticing the beauty of the plants and unexpected vistas that arise with each twist in the trail. Even if the forest fog unexpectedly rolls in and prevents us from hiking to the summit, our intention to enjoy one another and nature's beauty can still be fulfilled.
If we are just focused on the goal of reaching the summit - and the fog prevents that - we can return home feeling victimized. As Creators focused on our intention being fully present to the experience, we can return satisfied that we fulfilled the intention.
Focusing on intentions does not mean you give up your goals or desire to achieve. Here are three differences between goals and intentions:
- Goals are focused on the future. Intentions are in the present moment.
- Goals are a destination or specific achievement. Intentions are lived each day, independent of achieving the goal or destination.
- Goals are external achievements. Intentions are your inner relationships with yourself and others.
By setting your intention first, and combining it with goals, you will become a Creator who enjoys both the journey, as much as the destination.
Taken from the Power of TED* newsletter where they share insights about how to shift from drama to empowerment. The newsletter is written and edited by David Emerald and Donna Zajonc © 2017, with all rights reserved.
Like this article? Check out the Archives for more TED* Works!
Learn more about TED* - www.powerofted.com
Donna Zajonc, MCC is Director of Coaching and Practitioner Services for The Power of TED*. She applies the TED* work in her coaching, facilitating and speaking work, to help clients focus on creating bold and powerful choices.
Having had a full-time professional coaching practice for many years, Donna collaborates with David Emerald, author of The Power of TED* as both wife and business partner.
Thursday, December 08 2016
Reassess Millennials’ Social Sharing Habits
By Judith E. Glaser & Ashley Blundetto
hbr.org
March 27, 2015
Millennials are often maligned for their constant technology use and obsession with the social approval signaled by likes, shares, and retweets. But organizations need to start recognizing the benefits of such behavior and harnessing it. This generational cohort will, by some estimates, account for nearly 75% of the workforce by 2025. And, according to a recent Deloitte survey of 7,800 people from 29 countries, only 28% of currently employed Millennials feel their companies are fully using their skills.
How can smart leaders better leverage the talents of these future leaders? As organizational consultants, we tell our clients to consider what makes them tick and to see the value in those interests. Two points are of particular note:
First, social sharing. Neuroscientists have shown that any kind of positive personal interaction lights up a part of the brain called the temporoparietal junction, which stimulates the production of oxytocin, “the feel-good hormone.” Millennials, who have grown up interacting online, are able to get that same high, more often, through technology, by posting, messaging, forwarding and favoriting multiple times a day. They crave that connection and are therefore natural team players.
Second, constant, complex data flow. Research tells us that multitasking is impossible: people can only do two things at once if one of those things is routine. Also, those who regularly use multiple forms of media are more prone to distraction than those who don’t. But, according to Nielson Neurofocus, EEG readings suggest that younger brains have higher multi-sensory processing capacity than older ones and are most stimulated – that its more engaged with and more likely to pay attention to and remember – dynamic messages. Millennials probably aren’t more effective multitaskers, in the strict sense of the world, but, in their current stage of brain development, they seem better able to tolerate and integrate multiple streams of information.
Angela Ahrendts, the former CEO of Burberry, recognized that she could turn these two hallmarks of Millennial behavior into an asset for the fashion brand. In 2006, she hired a large number of “digital natives,” as she called them, to do what they do best: socialize through technology. As she explains in this video, they created an expansive digital platform, which transformed the company’s image and dramatically accelerated its growth. One highlight was “Tweet Walk,” which turned Burberry’s traditional runway show into a live web broadcast.
While Baby Boomers might see phones, tablets, and other devices as distractions, Millennials use them to collaborate and innovate in real time. While Gen-Xers may view aggressive social sharing as an unhealthy mix of the personal and professional, Millennials see it as a way to gather input and learn from others. Millennials understand, embrace and are evolving with our exponentially expanding digital world. Instead of judging their behavior, we need to better leverage it.
@Judith E. Glaser all rights reserved
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Judith E. Glaser is an Organizational Anthropologist. She is one of the most pioneering and innovative change agents, consultants, and executive coaches, in the consulting industry and is the world’s leading authority on Conversational Intelligence®, Neuro-innovation, and WE-centric Leadership. She is a best-selling author of seven business books including her newest best seller - Conversational Intelligence: How Great Leaders Build Trust and Get Extraordinary Results. Through the application of ‘the neuroscience of we’ to business challenges, Judith shows CEOs and their teams how to elevate levels of engagement, collaboration and innovation to positively impact the bottom line.
Judith is the founder and CEO of Benchmark Communications, Inc., and the Chairman of The CreatingWE Institute. Her transformational approaches using neuroscience and anthropology enables leaders to raise their Conversational Intelligence® and establish WE- centric cultures to build agile and higher performing individuals and teams poised to impact the bottom line and top line results in their organizations.
www.creatingwe.com
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