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Wednesday, November 14 2018
Damian Goldvarg MCC

This is a different kind of Moore Master Coaching Call

Damian will be conducting a live coaching supervision session with a Leadership Coach he's never met. She is having a challenge with one of her clients who is having difficulty building a team of people to support the vision

You may have heard of supervision, but do you really know what's involved

Supervision is a very important coaching resource and getting to hear a session is a real gift.

It offers a number of wonderful benefits:

  • It's a twofer: we get to hear master level coaching and supervision at the same time
  • Learn coaching skills as well as ways to breakthrough challenges we may have with clients
  • Experience how we might benefit from supervision ourselves
  • The chance to explore it as a possible career path or an additional path

MMC has had 2 previous master coaching supervision demonstrations and the participants have been asking for more.

So the next one is with Damian Godvarg PhD, MCC on Thursday November 15, 6-7 PM EST

Read more here

You can check out the previous 2 MMC supervision sessions under the "coaching supervision" tab:

 Kathleen Stinnett MCC  as a bonus demonstrated a 15 minute supervision session with a coach on the call. 

 Sam McGill MCC  in a full length session supervised another MCCs live coaching demonstration on his call back in the spring.

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Monday, November 05 2018

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By Annie Gelfand CPCC, MCC
(MMC guest Master Coach (under the leadership tab) and blogger
 

People everywhere around the world argue. Some do it well, so that each party walks away feeling seen, heard and respected. They may agree to disagree. Their interaction is emotionally intelligent, free of blame, stonewalling and contempt. Other interactions, however, may not go quite as well. We are seeing evidence of these latter interactions more and more throughout the world. As polarities are becoming more obvious, tensions are heightened, we also see that every relationship is only as strong as each individual within it is self-aware.

Unresolved emotional issues left to fester for years, lying unsuspectingly dormant, can get triggered. Before you know it, one of you (or more) has turned into a five year old child having a temper tantrum and not really understanding why.

It is each of our responsibilities to leave no old emotional wound unaddressed. Along the way, however, the challenge is to keep our interactions from escalating to levels of conflict beyond repair. The target is to navigate these difficult conversations where participants can stay free from creating damage and hopefully ultimately generate even greater intimacy and willingness to be vulnerable. The magic key is something John Gottman, author of ‘The Relationship Cure” calls repair bids; a “happy couple’s secret weapon.” The following outlines Gottman’s protocols to catch the conflict before it begins to escalate beyond repair.

7 ways to make a repair bid in the moment to keep from escalation (low level):

1. Use humour to create some levity 
2. Ask your partner what they need from you right now
3. Validate their emotions
4. Apologize in the moment
5. Touch them gently
6. Verbally remind both of you that you’re on the same team
7. Empathize with them, “I get you.”

7 ways to make a repair attempt when real emotional damage has been done (high level):

1. Take responsiblity for your behavior
2. Verbally apologize with sincerity
3. Give your partner a hand-written, personalized card
4. Tell them you love them and didn’t mean to hurt them
5. Ask them what they need from you to heal the wound
6. Share your ideas around how you got triggered and how you plan to work on avoiding it happening again
7. Tell your partner why they are worth it and what they mean to you

Although Gottman is referring to romantic couples, these principals can also be applied to any professional relationship. If at least one participant in the relationship is willing to be vigilant, if both parties care about and are invested in the relationship, willing to work on it, and take on the responsibility of offering the “repair bid”, conflict situations may be nipped in the bud.

No matter how badly things go, repair bids go a long way towards healing any chasm.

@2018 Annie Gelfand/Radical Wisdom all rights reserved


Not only a Master Certified Coach, Annie has an MBA, she is a Radical Change Catalyst, Intuition Whisperer, Speaker/Writer/Healer/Creator of Magnitude, Professional Question Asker & Cat Obsessed. Annie spends her days coaching highly intuitive and high-performing professionals who are hungry to discover and live a full unapologetic life devoted to unfolding their own inner wisdom. 

Radical Wisdom is "A catalyst of radical change in the workplace and in the world. Viewer discretion is advised. Not appropriate for the average human. Must have courage to change, mega-gigantic dreams and a dash of spunk."

Annie is a writer, artist, healer and Intuition Whisperer who believes in cats, full bodied red wine, dark chocolate, rich, deep connection and that laughter is not only the best medicine, but the best way to get over your daily crap. She coaches  individuals, couples and groups.
www.radicalwisdom.com

 

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