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Thursday, January 11 2018
January 2018 Free Resources

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  • The simple mindset “tweak” that will change everything
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  • Practical and believable real-word solutions you can implement TODAY.
  • A wide assortment of additional free resources that you can immediately put to work

Image may contain: text Want to help people understand how coaching works? For the rest of us it's always a great idea to review the basics. And no better way than via a master! Darlene Chrissley MCC is giving us her audio book for free! 

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Tuesday, January 09 2018
Ensuring Sustainable Success by How You Wrap Up the Year

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Ensuring Sustainable Success by How You Wrap Up the Year
by Marilybn O'Hearne MCC (guest MMC Master Coach & blogger)

Like your holiday gifts, have you wrapped up this year’s challenges and are ready to open the gift of next year’s success? You are invited to complete your own Sustainable Success Review, either on your own or partnering with me as your coach (I have limited openings) (Coaching provides an ROI of 700%)

Looking for the third installment of the Hacking Motivation series? Promised before year end! And those who have read the first two are already a step ahead toward ensuring sustainable success, as you know the power of purpose and vision and how to step into your desired future.

The following Sustainable Success Review implements the “T” in IMPACT: “Take Stock of Success and Repeat.”(from my Breaking Free from Bias book)

I. List your achievements for the past year, take time to savor them, celebrate, and identify what is working!You can do this and still be humble. I challenge you to address professional and personal gains as they all work together to ensure your sustainable success. These may include:

  • New friends, clients, associates, business (reviewing your business and marketing plans
  • Increasing your cultural intelligence (CQ) which can include identifying and managing bias
  • Increasing your awareness of and ability to identify and manage your emotions (EQ) 
  • Skills and/or knowledge gained and implemented
  • Releasing a negative thinking pattern
  • How you have been orienting your organization and life around its mission, vision and values
  • Ways of serving others
  • What you did to purposefully add to your own and others’ joy, peace
  • Separating yourself from your work (and devices!)
  • Taking centering breaks throughout the day
  • Relaxing and renewing each hour, day, month and year
  • Taking great care of your body (healthy diet, exercise)
  • Honoring your spiritual well being, etc.

Better yet, do not limit this review to once a year. Take the time annually, AND monthly. Plan a monthly or quarterly retreat or check in. I recently had a VIP day with my coach for additional support and accountability.

II. List others’ contributions you are thankful for, and your greatest supporters, and let them know how they have added value to your life. You may choose to write a note, tell them in person, or plan a celebration event.

III.  Finish anything that is left undone. This will free up your focus and energy for the new year. Examples:

  • Apologizing to a co-worker, friend, or family member
  • Organizing your office, home
  • Finishing a project
  • Paying off a debt
  • Saying something that needs to be said
  • Forgiving yourself or someone else
  • Going for your annual medical and dental check ups
  • Setting clearer boundaries, etc.

High potential leaders I coach frequently need to put clearer boundaries in place, improve their delegation and team leadership skills in order to focus their time and attention on implementing their vision.

III. Develop, map out your plan. Building on what you have identified as working well, next you come up with a plan for each area, including action steps and completion dates, to achieve your desired results. I am using Asana, a free project management software, for this.

Partnering with a coach who will provide encouragement, support, objective feedback, creative brainstorming and accountability will boost your likelihood of following through. You may choose to ask your coach  to partner with you in identifying and removing any barriers to your sustainable success plan, and also to recognize and affirm how you are already making progress.

Another option is to create a collage of your sustainable success, a vivid visual reminder. Mine includes meaningful words and images that represent my purpose, vision and values.

Complete the process by taking your calendar and planning in time for what keeps you focused and refreshed. I do all of the above! Burned out leaders do not benefit your organization’s image, culture, or bottom-line.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!
@copyright2017 Marilyn O'Hearne all rights reserved


Marilyn a Thomas Leonard Achievement Award recipient, is a globally experienced and recognized (since ’98) Culturally Intelligent Leadership, Team, and Mentor Coach, including for United Nations leaders. Marilyn provides a trustworthy, secure launching pad for rocketing from overwhelm to transformation. Her training and experience include US, UK and Bali based coaching programs, two years Systems training, living in Spain and Brazil and teaching, training, speaking and coaching extensively in Asia Pacific. This included serving as University Adjunct Professor in Hong Kong and Malaysia in International Business and Organizational Behavior. 

Her passion for intercultural competency in coaching led her to: Developing Culturally Intelligent Coaching Programs: both a Direct Communications Course (recognizing cultural differences) and a Culturally Confident Credentialing Mentor Coaching Program; 6 years, ICF Global Board of Directors, Association of Coach Training Organization's Board, ICF Advance Cultural Competency Advisory Team and co-authoring “The Intersection of Culture and Ethics” for Law and Ethics in Coaching. “It is impossible to not work interculturally!" Marilyn says, even locally. "Marilyn is a gentle, spiritual soul, and yet powerful and provocative at the same time.” (Coach trainee) Her Breaking Free from Bias book was published in 2017. Her blog continues to inspire and inform.

https://marilynoh.com/mentor-coaching

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Wednesday, December 13 2017

Join us for the inspiration, fun and great learning!

A fabulous way to end 2017 with a deeper understanding, new tools and a renewed motivation for 2018.


Thursday December 14, 2017  1-2pm EST.

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Tuesday, November 14 2017

Come hear Byron coaching live!

Byron is a real estate sales coach and will be coaching a very successful real estate agent. This will be the first time that Byron and the client have ever met or spoken.

As a special bonus Byron is giving us an additional 15 minutes for extra debriefing and Q&A.

The call provide 1 CEU and the passwrod will be given before the end of the first hour.

Join us Wednesday November 15!

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Thursday, October 12 2017
When Chaos Hits, Do We Practice What We Preach?

By Gail Moore CPC

"Chaotic" is being used a lot nowadays to describe the world we live in. So what's the opportunity? For me it's how can I be the eye of the hurricane?

I had a chance to work on it while going through an actual hurricane :-) and the chaos of waiting and preparing for Irma's potential devastation.

The biggest test: with the frantic voices of others saying "Oh my God get out" and the dire radar predictions from the weather folks- could I get still, listen and trust my own inner knowing?

Everyday for a week prior, in meditation I did just that and everytime the answer consistently was to "stay put".

I truly believe we can not escape our destiny. So many people have left to avoid hurricanes only to run right into them.

So I knew that following this inner guidance didn't necessarily mean everything was going to turn out great according to my ego but just that this was where I was suppose to be. And for me not trusting myself would have been the real catastrophe.

Thank goodness everything turned out well in my area. And although the debris it stirred up within me has ranged from uncomfortable to painful, the rewards so far have been off the charts!

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Monday, September 25 2017
Marty Raphael MCC Coaches Live!

Join us Wednesday 9/27, 12-1pm ET!

Master Coach Marty Raphael will be coaching a client she's never met. She is a leader at a wealth management firm. She's looking for direction on how to balance her life, time management ideas- how to grow and to stay more focused.

Sound familiar? Come learn from a Master coaching, then sharing her process and answering our questions. 

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Friday, August 25 2017
Philip Cohen MCC Coaches Live!
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Monday, August 14 2017
Questioning Strategy

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Questioning Strategy
by Judy Irving MCC
(MMC guest master coach and blogger)

What’s the strategy for your life’s work? The word ‘work’ can be replaced with any such as career, life, marriage, the current project, or perhaps retirement? Have you defined your strategy? Is it working? How do you know? Do you actually have a plan in place or do you live life in default mode?

Many people will say my strategy is to earn enough money to pay my bills, educate my kids and someday retire. What if money is a side effect of doing valued work? What if educating your kids is a side effect of being a loving parent? What if retirement is a side effect of self-discipline? What if a life well lived means having a dependable strategy? What if the foundation for all of these is finding meaning in life?

As an leadership coach, I watch smart, educated, and skilled people with the potential to be great leaders and yet they are so focused on ‘doing’, staying busy, checking things off their list that they don’t stop and look at the bigger picture. Exactly where are all these actions leading me? Is being busy or getting things done enough?

I think the bigger question is what is the desired outcome and what is the real value of that outcome? What difference will it make to me, my life, my company, my family, my team, etc? How do I get my team or my family on board with this desired outcome? Is it clear enough and important enough that I can engage them in my vision? Can they get excited about it too? What choices and actions will lead to that outcome? What do we need – people, skills, training, resources? How much time will it take? How much time do we have?

If you are not taking the time to think through these questions – I call this executive think time and you should take this time daily – then you will continue to be Dolly or Darin Doer. Staying busy doing everything on your checklist, going to bed each night with a sense of accomplishment but rarely a sense of fulfillment. I suggest you begin by observing what gives you a sense of fulfillment. What does it feel like, where did it come from and how can you find more of it? Yes, coaches ask a lot of questions – try asking yourself a few.

@ Judy Irving 2017


Judy Irving is an Executive and Leadership Coach and owner of Moving On Coaching and Consulting, located in Las Vegas, NV. As a credential master coach by the International Coach Federation, she is among the top 2% of coaches internationally.

Visit her at http://www.movingon.net
Read more of her "transformativethoughts's" blog posts at www.judyirving.com

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Tuesday, July 25 2017


“What got you here (PCC), will not get you there (MCC)” a coach was told by her MCC mentor coach, when feeling stuck in moving her skills to the MCC level.

So what will get her there? We’ll find out!

First by hearing those master level skills demonstrated as she is coached by Annette Hurley MCC.

And then we will be diving deep into the debriefing and extended Q&A.

No matter what our skill level, this will be incredibly fascinating, provide unique learning and is an opportunity to open up our world and really shift our coaching.

Plus get the MP3, ICF & BCC CE’s and MMC Nugget! CE's will be provided for the 1st hour.

Join us for this exciting adventure Monday July 31, 2017 12-1:30pm ET. 

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Tuesday, June 27 2017
Try Feedforward Instead of Feedback

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Try Feedforward Instead of Feedback

by Marshall Goldsmith

Providing feedback has long been considered to be an essential skill for leaders. As they strive to achieve the goals of the organization, employees need to know how they are doing. They need to know if their performance is in line with what their leaders expect. They need to learn what they have done well and what they need to change. Traditionally, this information has been communicated in the form of “downward feedback” from leaders to their employees. Just as employees need feedback from leaders, leaders can benefit from feedback from their employees. Employees can provide useful input on the effectiveness of procedures and processes and as well as input to managers on their leadership effectiveness. This “upward feedback” has become increasingly common with the advent of 360 degree multi-rater assessments.

But there is a fundamental problem with all types of feedback: it focuses on the past, on what has already occurred—not on the infinite variety of opportunities that can happen in the future. As such, feedback can be limited and static, as opposed to expansive and dynamic.
Over the past several years, I have observed more than thirty thousand leaders as they participated in a fascinating experiential exercise. In the exercise, participants are each asked to play two roles. In one role, they are asked provide feedforward —that is, to give someone else suggestions for the future and help as much as they can. In the second role, they are asked to accept feedforward—that is, to listen to the suggestions for the future and learn as much as they can. The exercise typically lasts for 10-15 minutes, and the average participant has 6-7 dialogue sessions. In the exercise participants are asked to:

• Pick one behavior that they would like to change. Change in this behavior should make a significant, positive difference in their lives.
• Describe this behavior to randomly selected fellow participants. This is done in one-on-one dialogues. It can be done quite simply, such as, “I want to be a better listener.”
• Ask for feedforward—for two suggestions for the future that might help them achieve a positive change in their selected behavior. If participants have worked together in the past, they are not allowed to give ANY feedback about the past. They are only allowed to give ideas for the future.
• Listen attentively to the suggestions and take notes. Participants are not allowed to comment on the suggestions in any way. They are not allowed to critique the suggestions or even to make positive judgmental statements, such as, “That’s a good idea.”
• Thank the other participants for their suggestions.
• Ask the other persons what they would like to change.
• Provide feedforward – two suggestions aimed at helping the other person change.
• Say, “You are welcome.” when thanked for the suggestions. The entire process of both giving and receiving feedforward usually takes about two minutes.
• Find another participant and keep repeating the process until the exercise is stopped.

When the exercise is finished, I ask participants to provide one word that best describes their reaction to this experience. I ask them to complete the sentence, “This exercise was …”. The words provided are almost always extremely positive, such as “great”, “energizing”, “useful”, or “helpful.” One of the most commonly-mentioned words is “fun!”
What is the last word that comes to mind when we consider any feedback activity? Fun!

Eleven Reasons to Try FeedForward
Participants are then asked why this exercise is seen as fun and helpful as opposed to painful, embarrassing, or uncomfortable. Their answers provide a great explanation of why feedforward can often be more useful than feedback as a developmental tool.

1. We can change the future. We can’t change the past. Feedforward helps people envision and focus on a positive future, not a failed past. Athletes are often trained using feedforward. Racecar drivers are taught to, “Look at the road ahead, not at the wall.” Basketball players are taught to envision the ball going in the hoop and to imagine the perfect shot. By giving people ideas on how they can be even more successful (as opposed to visualizing a failed past), we can increase their chances of achieving this success in the future.

2. It can be more productive to help people learn to be “right,” than prove they were “wrong.” Negative feedback often becomes an exercise in “let me prove you were wrong.” This tends to produce defensiveness on the part of the receiver and discomfort on the part of the sender. Even constructively delivered feedback is often seen as negative as it necessarily involves a discussion of mistakes, shortfalls, and problems. Feedforward, on the other hand, is almost always seen as positive because it focuses on solutions – not problems.

3. Feedforward is especially suited to successful people. Successful people like getting ideas that are aimed at helping them achieve their goals. They tend to resist negative judgment. We all tend to accept feedback that is consistent with the way we see ourselves. We also tend to reject or deny feedback that is inconsistent with the way we see ourselves. Successful people tend to have a very positive self-image. I have observed many successful executives respond to (and even enjoy) feedforward. I am not sure that these same people would have had such a positive reaction to feedback.

4. Feedforward can come from anyone who knows about the task. It does not require personal experience with the individual. One very common positive reaction to the previously described exercise is that participants are amazed by how much they can learn from people that they don’t know! For example, if you want to be a better listener, almost any fellow leader can give you ideas on how you can improve. They don’t have to know you. Feedback requires knowing about the person. Feedforward just requires having good ideas for achieving the task.

5. People do not take feedforward as personally as feedback. In theory, constructive feedback is supposed to “focus on the performance, not the person”. In practice, almost all feedback is taken personally (no matter how it is delivered). Successful people’s sense of identity is highly connected with their work. The more successful people are, the more this tends to be true. It is hard to give a dedicated professional feedback that is not taken personally. Feedforward cannot involve a personal critique, since it is discussing something that has not yet happened! Positive suggestions tend to be seen as objective advice – personal critiques are often viewed as personal attacks.

6. Feedback can reinforce personal stereotyping and negative self-fulfilling prophecies. Feedforward can reinforce the possibility of change. Feedback can reinforce the feeling of failure. How many of us have been “helped” by a spouse, significant other, or friend, who seems to have a near-photographic memory of our previous “sins” that they share with us in order to point out the history of our shortcomings. Negative feedback can be used to reinforce the message, “this is just the way you are”. Feedforward is based on the assumption that the receiver of suggestions can make positive changes in the future.

7. Face it! Most of us hate getting negative feedback, and we don’t like to give it. I have reviewed summary 360 degree feedback reports for over 50 companies. The items, “provides developmental feedback in a timely manner” and “encourages and accepts constructive criticism” both always score near the bottom on co-worker satisfaction with leaders. Traditional training does not seem to make a great deal of difference. If leaders got better at providing feedback every time the performance appraisal forms were “improved”, most should be perfect by now! Leaders are not very good at giving or receiving negative feedback. It is unlikely that this will change in the near future.

8. Feedforward can cover almost all of the same “material” as feedback. Imagine that you have just made a terrible presentation in front of the executive committee. Your manager is in the room. Rather than make you “relive” this humiliating experience, your manager might help you prepare for future presentations by giving you suggestions for the future. These suggestions can be very specific and still delivered in a positive way. In this way your manager can “cover the same points” without feeling embarrassed and without making you feel even more humiliated.

9. Feedforward tends to be much faster and more efficient than feedback. An excellent technique for giving ideas to successful people is to say, “Here are four ideas for the future. Please accept these in the positive spirit that they are given. If you can only use two of the ideas, you are still two ahead. Just ignore what doesn’t make sense for you.” With this approach almost no time gets wasted on judging the quality of the ideas or “proving that the ideas are wrong”. This “debate” time is usually negative; it can take up a lot of time, and it is often not very productive. By eliminating judgment of the ideas, the process becomes much more positive for the sender, as well as the receiver. Successful people tend to have a high need for self-determination and will tend to accept ideas that they “buy” while rejecting ideas that feel “forced” upon them.

10. Feedforward can be a useful tool to apply with managers, peers, and team members. Rightly or wrongly, feedback is associated with judgment. This can lead to very negative – or even career-limiting – unintended consequences when applied to managers or peers. Feedforward does not imply superiority of judgment. It is more focused on being a helpful “fellow traveler” than an “expert”. As such it can be easier to hear from a person who is not in a position of power or authority. An excellent team building exercise is to have each team member ask, “How can I better help our team in the future?” and listen to feedforward from fellow team members (in one-on-one dialogues.)

11. People tend to listen more attentively to feedforward than feedback. One participant is the feedforward exercise noted, “I think that I listened more effectively in this exercise than I ever do at work!” When asked why, he responded, “Normally, when others are speaking, I am so busy composing a reply that will make sure that I sound smart – that I am not fully listening to what the other person is saying I am just composing my response. In feedforward the only reply that I am allowed to make is ‘thank you’. Since I don’t have to worry about composing a clever reply – I can focus all of my energy on listening to the other person!”

In summary, the intent of this article is not to imply that leaders should never give feedback or that performance appraisals should be abandoned. The intent is to show how feedforward can often be preferable to feedback in day-to-day interactions. Aside from its effectiveness and efficiency, feedforward can make life a lot more enjoyable. When managers are asked, “How did you feel the last time you received feedback?” their most common responses are very negative. When managers are asked how they felt after receiving feedforward, they reply that feedforward was not only useful, it was also fun!

 Quality communication—between and among people at all levels and every department and division—is the glue that holds organizations together. By using feedforward—and by encouraging others to use it—leaders can dramatically improve the quality of communication in their organizations, ensuring that the right message is conveyed, and that those who receive it are receptive to its content. The result is a much more dynamic, much more open organization—one whose employees focus on the promise of the future rather than dwelling on the mistakes of the past.


Dr. Marshall Goldsmith is the million-selling author of the New York Times bestsellers MOJO and What Got You Here Won’t Get You There – the Harold Longman Award winner for Business Book of the Year.  Marshall was selected as the #1 Executive Coach in the World by GlobalGurus.org, and one of the 10 Most Influential Management Thinkers in the World by Thinkers50 in both 2011 and 2013. He was also selected as the World’s Most Influential Leadership Thinker in 2011. Marshall was the highest rated executive coach on the Thinkers50 List in both 2011 and 2013. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There was listed as a top ten business bestseller for 2013 by INC Magazine / 800 CEO Read (for the seventh consecutive year). Marshall’s exciting new research on engagement is published in his newest book Triggers (Crown, 2015). 
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