More Game, Less Goals
By Rick Tamlyn, CPCC, MCC
(MMC guest master coach on 10/15/13 & blogger)
Today, I got seduced yet again to the big “goals” of my life – the outcomes of what I want to create – those goals like my mortgage paid off in 5 years or a best seller book by 2013.
Now, this does not sound like a bad thing, yet, I notice that by focusing on the goals creates stress and anxiety in me big time as it activates that old standard question “how to create them.”
It has me lose focus on the “game” in life that I am playing right now. I am not a happy camper when I go here – really! And yet, when I re-focused on the “game” that I am up to in my life right now, I became more creative, more alive and connected to myself again.
I have heard from many folks that when we get to the later years of our life, we remember most how we lived life – way more than the goals that we achieved along the way.
When I coach folks these days, I tell them right upfront that I am not a goal focused coach – I focus on the “game of life” that you want to live – for I know the goals will happen organically.
So, the big question to ask ourselves is, ‘are you living a goal oriented life? Or a “game” oriented life?’
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Rick Tamlyn is a sought after self-empowerment expert and works internationally as an experiential keynote speaker, co-active trainer and facilitator. He has delivered over 500 conference keynotes, Bigger Game and Meet-Point-Dance workshops, Co-Active Coaching and Co-Active Leadership programs to individuals, teams and Fortune 100 organizations around the globe. Rick has inspired and challenged thousands of people and teams to achieve their personal and professional goals and to up their “game,” in service of a more fulfilled and sustainable world.
Rick co-created and developed The Bigger Game, a tool that inspires executives, leaders and everyday people to get out of their comfort zones and invent the life they want. He is the co-author of The Bigger Game: Why Playing a Bigger Game Designs Who You Want to Become, and has trained and certified leaders from seven (7) different countries to deliver e Bigger Game program. His eagerly anticipated latest book Play Your Bigger Game was just released.
Rick is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) and a Master Certified Coach (MCC) as designated by the International Coach Federation (ICF), and is a senior trainer for e Coaches Training Institute, a world-renown coach training and leadership development organization.