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Friday, 13 January 2017

By Donna Zajonc MCC and David Emerald 
(Donna was a guest MCC May 2015)

Goal setting is a valuable practice that helps you stay on track and get things done.   Goals are essential for completing tasks, whether it is developing a new business skill, learning a new hobby or cleaning the garage.

While setting goals can motivate you, they can also produce a feeling that what you currently have isn't enough.  A sense of unease can come over you if your goal-oriented life discounts all that is good in the present moment.  In short, while goals can move you forward, you can also feel victimized by constant "what's next?" thinking.

Questions may start haunting you:  Am I going to fulfill my goal?  Will I be successful or not?  Will I be happy once I reach the goal?  Should I set another goal to keep the pressure on?  Am I a failure if the goal is not reached?

A winning or losing mindset can operate in the back of your mind, which fuels the internal Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) ™.   If you don't reach your goal, the Victim mindset says, "Why try anyway.  I'll never be a success."

The controlling Persecutor in you may take over and interfere with other important aspects of your life.  You might accomplish your goals but the rest of your life might fall apart.  In short, over reliance on goal-setting can become a winner-take-all plot that dominates your life.

Living your intentions, on the other hand, is much different.  Being intentional allows you to focus on how you want to be in the moment, independent of whether you are winning or losing.  Creators balance their desired outcome with intentions first, based upon their values and what matters most to them.   Goal-setting then naturally follows.  For a Creator, the source of satisfaction and happiness is both the experience in the moment, as well as the desired goal or outcome.

A metaphor may help illustrate the distinction between intentions and goals.

We live in the US near a national forest which has wonderful day hikes that allow spectacular views.  Our goal may be to hike to the top of a small mountain and wish to see the extraordinary view from the summit.  It's a worthy goal that gets us excited and motivates us to schedule a hike.

Before we begin the hike, we set our intention to be present to the sights and smells along the trail, noticing the beauty of the plants and unexpected vistas that arise with each twist in the trail.  Even if the forest fog unexpectedly rolls in and prevents us from hiking to the summit, our intention to enjoy one another and nature's beauty can still be fulfilled.

If we are just focused on the goal of reaching the summit - and the fog prevents that - we can return home feeling victimized.  As Creators focused on our intention being fully present to the experience, we can return satisfied that we fulfilled the intention.

Focusing on intentions does not mean you give up your goals or desire to achieve.   Here are three differences between goals and intentions:

  • Goals are focused on the future. Intentions are in the present moment.
  • Goals are a destination or specific achievement. Intentions are lived each day, independent of achieving the goal or destination.
  • Goals are external achievements. Intentions are your inner relationships with yourself and others.

By setting your intention first, and combining it with goals, you will become a Creator who enjoys both the journey, as much as the destination.

Taken from the Power of TED* newsletter where they share insights about how to shift from drama to empowerment. The newsletter is written and edited by David Emerald and Donna Zajonc © 2017, with all rights reserved.

Like this article? Check out the Archives for more TED* Works! 
Learn more about TED* - www.powerofted.com


Donna Zajonc, MCC is Director of Coaching and Practitioner Services for The Power of TED*. She applies the TED* work in her coaching, facilitating and speaking work, to help clients focus on creating bold and powerful choices.

Having had a full-time professional coaching practice for many years, Donna collaborates with David Emerald, author of The Power of TED* as both wife and business partner.

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